What kind of relationships do you want?
Life coaching with Claudia Tranca, PhD
“While many say that finding compassion for those who hurt them is one of the hardest things they’ve ever done, others discover that it’s freeing in ways they hadn’t imagined. It binds them to a common humanity where we are all in some measure flawed, torn, and hurt. And dying for understanding.” Joshua Coleman, Rules …
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“He gave man speech, and speech created thought, Which is the measure of the universe.” P. B. Shelley, Prometheus Unbound I’ll never forget the day when I, a 26-year-old woman with wavy hair flowing past my mid-back, sat on the lady barber’s chair and asked her to shave off my hair, à la Kojak (to …
“Have you seen the fool that corrupted his own live body?” Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass “What in the world is the matter with you? I just don’t get it. I’ve had your back since day one, OK? I’ve done my best to get your attention: whispering, muttering, speaking, rambling, shouting, screaming, sometimes in such …
“How we feel about our kids isn’t as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we treat them.” Alfie Kohn, Unconditional Parenting “I don’t have any regrets.” Some people make this remark, more often than not with an air of absolute certainty and self-sufficiency as if they belonged to …
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“The realisation of any present shortcomings is unbearable for anybody harassed by dictatorial shoulds,” Karen Horney, Neurosis and Human Growth “You mustn’t put chewing gum in your sister’s hair.” I remember saying that to my little son, along with a series of explanations why his sister’s hair was not the best place to land that …
“If your kids are unable to see you as worthy of love, acceptance, and forgiveness, then you have to find redemption in that small crack in the continuum of catastrophe, as Walter Benjamin put it.” James Coleman, Rules of Engagement “So, how’s your daughter doing?” I asked my new acquaintance behind the wheel of her …
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“I've got a magic charmThat I keep up my sleeve,I can walk the ocean floorAnd never have to breathe,” “Life Doesn’t Frighten Me” by Maya Angelou “Should I do this or not?” Tell me you didn’t ask yourself this question when it came to buying a house, having a child, getting married or divorced, accepting …
“Agency starts with what scientists call interoception, our awareness of our subtle sensory, body-based feelings: the greater the awareness, the greater our potential to control our lives.” The Body Keeps the Score, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk) Your divorce - nothing and nobody can fully prepare you for it. At first, the mere thought …
One thing we love about electronic devices is the certainty that, by pressing a single button, what we want is being done, from making a cup of coffee to opening our Instagram account or getting to the 10th floor of a building in a lift. What if there was such a thing as a Mind …
“Something we were withholding made us weak, Until we found it was ourselves.” Robert Frost Each and every one of us has a shadow. It starts developing naturally when we are children and is part of who we are. Hence, if you are a parent and deny or ignore this common knowledge, that is, if …
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What kind of relationships do you want? 